You Don’t Have to Do It Alone: Build Your ADHD Support Team.

You feel like you should be able to do it all yourself.

You should be able to reach your goals or the goals you have for your family on your own. After all, you've seen the stories and posts from people who seem to have done exactly that. So why can't you?

Our culture tends to glorify independence. The parent who somehow manages everything. The college student who is completely self-directed. The person who sets a goal, makes a plan, and simply follows through.

I'm guilty of believing this myself.

As a parent who homeschools my children, I've often felt that if I chose to take on this responsibility, I should be able to handle all of it myself.

But I've learned that there is simply too much for any one person to carry alone. When we continually try, we can end up exhausted, overwhelmed, and feeling even more stuck than when we started.

You weren't meant to do this alone

Maybe there's something you really want for your life, but you're struggling to figure out how to get there.

Maybe you're a college student working toward a degree and a career you're excited about, but managing classes, assignments, studying, work, and everything else that comes with college feels overwhelming.

Maybe you're a parent who can clearly see your child's strengths and potential but isn't quite sure how to give them the support they need.

Or maybe there's simply something you've wanted to accomplish for a long time. You know you're capable of doing it. You can picture what you want the end result to look like. But somehow, you can't seem to move from where you are to where you want to be.

What if that isn't evidence that you need to try harder?

What if you need support?

Find your team

We all need people in our corner. People who can see our strengths and potential, understand where we're trying to go, and provide support along the way.

Your team won't necessarily look like anyone else's.

For a college student, it might include family, friends, professors, tutors, counselors, disability support services, or a coach.

For a parent, it might include a spouse, friend, teacher, therapist, tutor, coach, or other parents who understand what you're navigating.

And for any of us, our team may change depending on the season we're in and what we're trying to accomplish.

No one person has to provide everything.

Sometimes the most important thing your team provides isn't another strategy or solution. It's having someone there when things aren't going the way you hoped. Someone who can help you reconnect with your why, recognize the progress you've already made, and figure out your next step.

Getting support doesn't make the accomplishment less yours

I think sometimes we're afraid that getting help somehow makes an accomplishment less ours.

But you're still the one doing the work.

A college student who works with professors, tutors, counselors, or an ADHD coach is still the one earning the degree.

A parent who brings other people into their child's support system isn't failing to do their job as a parent. They're recognizing that their child can benefit from having more people in their corner.

Getting support doesn't diminish what you've accomplished. Sometimes it's what allows you to keep moving toward it.

Could a coach be part of your team?

As an ADHD and executive function coach, I work with parents, college students, and adults who know where they want to go but feel stuck figuring out how to get there. Coaching can be one part of your support team, helping you recognize your strengths, work through what's getting in the way, and find strategies that fit you and your life.

If you've been trying to do everything on your own, maybe the next step isn't trying harder.

Maybe it's finding the right people to walk alongside you.

You weren't meant to travel this road alone. Find your team.